Social Media or Social Suicide?


Recently I cancelled my Linked-In and Plaxo accounts.  I had previously cancelled my Twitter account, but now have one under @PeaceFriendsCom to promote my blog, PeaceFriends.Com.  I mostly look at my own family’s Facebook posting and photos, and spend almost no time posting to Facebook, except for my blog posts which go up automatically.  In short, I’m pretty unsociable about social media.

Here are some of the pitfalls of social media, as I see them, especially for pastors:

1.  You think you’re anonymous.  “Public anonymity” sounds like a oxymoron.   You know, like airline food, military intelligence, hot ice, and so on.  But Twitter, Facebook, et al, while appearing to really connect us with others, don’t.  What social media do is to create an exchange “as through a glass darkly” to quote the Apostle Paul.  There is a sense that one can post comments or quotes that would not be said or shown in a face-to-face encounter.  Hence, public anonymity.  How else can you explain today’s “boy-behaving-badly,” Rep. Anthony Weiner.  Either he has a political deathwish, or he thought somehow he was anonymous.  The Emperor’s New Clothes comes to mind here for some reason.

2.  Nuance is lost in social media.  The raised eyebrow, the tone of voice, the wry smile, the sense of humor are all lost in social media.  Emoticons, I’m sorry, are not good substitutes for human facial expressions, even if they do help clarify (“is he mad, or just joking”) the writer’s intent.  I won’t even get into correct spelling, grammar, syntax, and all the other skills of proper writing that are lost, but nuance is a big one for me.

3.  It’s easy to be stupid.  While we might choose our words more carefully in a real-life encounter, social media is a linguistic drive-by shooting — quick, blunt, and irrevocable.  Of course, you can delete your tweet, but that won’t prevent someone else from capturing a screenshot and putting it on Twitter again.  Rep. Anthony Weiner, again, is a good example.

Of course, being stupid isn’t limited to explicit images or inappropriate comments.  Pastors and church leaders need to consider carefully their social media interaction, whether on blog posts, Twitter, Facebook, or any of the other social media platforms.  The now ubiquitous stories of employers checking out an applicant’s Facebook, MySpace, or Twitter accounts before hiring make my point about caution.  Do not think that your social media account is your private business.  If you’re out there, someone in your church or community will be reading and watching.

All of this doesn’t mean that pastors are limited to tweeting Bible verses or Christian platitudes.  But, a good rule of thumb is “if you wouldn’t show it to your ___________ (deacons, elders, spouse, senior pastor, mother, etc) don’t Tweet it.”

“Please re-Tweet this article, hit the Like button, post it to your Facebook accounts, and help me get this out there in the blogosphere,” he said ironically. 😉

5 thoughts on “Social Media or Social Suicide?”

  1. Chuck,

    Good blog. I canceled Twitter over a year ago(I think its been that long), I have blogged 3 times in 7 months, and the only social media I now use is Facebook… and I use Facebook to stay in touch with friends that live far away- not to try to sound super spiritual.

    It has been very healthy for me.

    Matt

  2. Chuck: I totally agree with your points. And if a preacher is trying to say things that he wouldn’t otherwise, he needs to hush anyway. I see a great potential for social media as a ministry tool. I often share prayer requests, give words of encouragement, and sometimes just chat–a good way to build relationships. But for those who want to use it for the wrong reasons, I hope they print your article and tape it to their computer. Thanks for the insights!
    Terry Reed
    Small Church Tools

  3. Interesting to see a pastor coming out with an opposing view to our seemingly modern madcap rush from letters, phone calls and face to face meets to modern media conversations!

    Your point about nuance is spot on – my pastor gets himself in enough trouble preaching from the front on a Sunday morning to be left to run amok on Twitter or similar. Not that you’ll find him on any social media site because (in his words) he “simply doesn’t understand it”.

    Funy thing is – I read this post but only this morning posted about language barrier problems on my own blog … weird!

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